Vayetze (Gen. 28:10-32:3)

This week, in Parashat VayetzeA ladder to heaven, a meeting at a well, a devious uncle, two wives, two concubines, 11 sons, and a daughter.  A 20-year rags to riches story.  Jacob grows up, and what goes around, comes around in neat symmetry.

In flight from Beer Sheva to Haran, Jacob sleeps fitfully, with a stone for a pillow, dreams of angels going up and down a ladder to heaven, and has his first communication with the Lord, confirming the covenant.  There are a variety of interpretations of the dream.  Rashi thought the angels were just changing shifts.  I came across three Hasidic interpretationsHere’s one: Levi Yitzhak of Berditchev suggests that the ladder represents how human beings can be planted in this world as corporeal beings yet be capable of reaching upward to enter into a relationship with the Lord.  Further, the angels’ movement shows that the heavens are affected by our actions.  Sinning causes cosmic damage, “shrinking the heavenly hosts,” forcing the angels down the ladder; following the commandments effects a repair of the cosmos, sending angels back upstairs.

Anyhow, Jacob meets his lovely cousin Rachel at a well (where else?) and is totally smitten. He uncovers the well, waters the flock, kisses her, and then introduces himself.  They go on to Haran.  Rachel’s father Laban, now head of the family, is disappointed at his nephew’s penniless state, remembering the riches Abraham had sent for Rebecca.  Jacob offers to work 7 years for Rachel’s hand, “and they seemed to him but a few days because of his love for her.” (29:20) Laban tricks Jacob by switching brides, so that Jacob wakes up with her older sister, Leah.  He is allowed to marry Rachel as well as long as he works another 7 years.  The women are focused on childbearing, that being the path to increased status.  Even though Rachel is Jacob’s true love, he has 6 sons and a daughter with Leah, 2 sons with Rachel’s maid Bilhah, and 2 sons with Leah’s maid Zilpah.  At this point, Rachel has only one son, Joseph.  Jacob continues to work for Laban, eventually learning how to protect himself; for example, Laban’s scheme to limit Jacob’s prosperity through specifying which flocks he could have is foiled by Jacob’s version of genetic engineering (30:29-43).  But Jacob’s prosperity is too big an irritant for Laban and his sons, and Jacob finally takes his family away, after spending 20 years in Haran.

Alan Dershowitz, in his book, The Genesis of Justice, describes how Jacob’s life shows that “he who lives by deceit shall himself be deceived” and that the deceptions are symmetrical.  Jacob, the younger son, tricks the older brother out of his birthright and is tricked into marrying Leah because the older daughter should be married first.  Jacob is able to deceive Isaac because he is blind and is later deceived in the darkness of his wedding tent.  Later, as he deceived Isaac by wearing goat skins on his arms, he will be deceived by his own sons, who bring him Joseph’s torn coat dipped in a goat’s blood.  However, as Dershowitz points out, there was no settled legal system to call upon.  Life was dealt with by physical force or guile.  For example, for an ambitious man to kill his older brother to become the heir was not as horrific then as now, so Jacob’s tricks would have been easier to accept.  Esau used force.  Jacob and Rebecca used guile, guile being “the great leveler between the physically unequal.”  But the message of the story is not simply that you reap what you sow.  The story is “a lesson about the symmetry of justice even in the absence of formal law.”   Further, “it is precisely because justice is not the natural condition of mankind…that we are obliged to pursue it actively.\ and not take it for granted.”

Next week:  wrestling, reunions, rape, birth, and deaths.

Shabbat shalom,


tph jacob's ladder


Wedding Photo Tips for Bigamists

MAY 3, 2010

  1. When marrying an additional wife, consider not having pictures taken at the ceremony.  This can be expensive, and in your case, incriminating.
  2. If you must have pictures taken, they should be displayed in a simple but tasteful frame, not, for example, in the newspaper.
  3. If you insist on submitting your wedding photo to a newspaper, it should not be your local newspaper, at least if your other wife reads the newspaper.

Bigamists, following these three simple rules will spare you and the two or more women you love a great deal of awkwardness and embarrassment.  They may also help you avoid a conviction, although probably you will do something almost as stupid anyway. At the very least, please observe Rule #3. Learn from the example of this Australian bigamist, who forged divorce papers in order to marry a second wife in 2008, and then submitted his wedding photo to his local newspaper.

This did not sit well with Wife #1, who saw the photo and called police.

Triklis, who pleaded guilty last week, was fined $1,800 and sentenced to six months (suspended), which frankly seems a little light for bigamy, forgery and perjury. I can think of at least two people who would agree with me on that.


The More, The Married: A Word on Polygamy (excerpts)


I’d like to take five minutes to speak out against something else that is far too prevalent in contemporary America: monogamy.  Not only is it nonsensical, counterintuitive, and counterproductive, it’s just plain un-American!

The term monogamy comes from the Greek words monos, which means one or alone, and gamos, which means mind-numbingly dull.  Historians believe that monogamy originated in the 8th century BC when a fiscally irresponsible camel-herder could only afford one gypsy girl for his harem.

But fear not dear readers!  There is hope for a better future.  Its name is polygamy and it rocks.  Check out this limerick:

There was an old fellow of Lyme
Who lived with three wives at one time.
When asked, “Why the third?”
He replied, “One’s absurd,
And bigamy, sir, is a crime.”

I say it’s high time we return to our Biblical roots.  But if pleas from Biblical truth don’t do it for you, then choose polygamy out of compassion for humanity.  Recent population studies report that females outnumber males on the planet 4 to 1.  If that is the case, every man who only dates one woman is robbing three women somewhere of a date.  My conscience can’t deal with that.  Can yours?


Thoughts on Genetic Engineering: Cloning

Results of the Washington Post Style Invitational, in which readers were asked to come up with intriguing questions to be considered by President Clinton’s special commission to study the moral and practical effects of cloning:

  • If you cloned Henry IV, would he be Henry V or Henry IV Jr. or wait, Henry IV part II?
  • Would there be a market for genetic “factory seconds” and “irregulars”?
  • Are the Pope and his clone both infallible? What if they disagree about something?
  • Would there be a market for genetic “factory seconds” and “irregulars”?
  • Would it be ethical to dig up the remains of our founding fathers, create clones from the bone cells, and place them in a theme park called Clonial Williamsburg?


Large Family Humor    Updated on November 1, 2014

Living in a large family requires a sense of humor (excerpts)

I am blessed to be the mom to seven children. I find the best remedy for a hard day is a good laugh! I am always on the lookout for good, clean fun and jokes.  And before you need to ask, yes, they are all mine, yes I do know what causes it, and yes, they are all cherished!

You Know you are a MoM (Mother of Many) when:

  1. You know where the bathroom is in any major store you visit.
  2. Your car has more seatbelts than windows.
  3. Your grocery budget is higher than your house payment.
  4. You do most of your thinking and praying in the bathroom.
  5. You no longer carry a purse, but use the diaper bag instead.
  6. You have a routine for stopping pacifiers, toilet training, cup training, and every childhood “phase”.
  7. You have at least three witty replies to “Are they all yours?”
  8. You have so much laundry that when you finally get to the bottom of the pile, it’s actually stuck to the floor!
  9. You spend more money on diapers each month than you do on entertainment!
  10. Taking the kids grocery shopping with you makes you feel like a mother duck.
  11. When you see photos of castles and grand mansions, all you can think is how many bedrooms it has (YES!), and how much space all those other rooms provide for the kids to mess up (NO WAY!).
  12. You know that every time you move the couch or couch cushions, you will find Cheerios under them…. Even if you have not had Cheerios in the house!
  13. When you go to order fast food, you order 6 hamburgers, one with ketchup only, one plain, one with no pickles or onions, two with no pickles, onions or mustard, and one with nothing but cheese, plus one fish sandwich, one chicken sandwich, one large hamburger, and one large hamburger with bacon. You then have to repeat yourself three times so the person at the window can get it right.
  14. You spend a lot of time looking at the little kids, urging them on to the next step, while still wishing they could stay little just a bit longer.
  15. When the many-times-handed down clothing is finally too worn out to hand down again, you still have a hard time letting it go because it has so many good memories attached.
  16. You can list at least three different technological advances in diaper design which you, personally, have used on your kids.

Written by Laura Wheeler


 “Karma:also refers to the spiritual principle of cause and effect where intent and actions of an individual (cause) influence the future of that individual (effect).”

Quotes on Karma – What goes around, comes around

I believe that the Laws of Karma do not apply to show business, where good things happen to bad people on a fairly regular basis.  Chuck Lorre

In every conversation I’ve had – with housewives in Mumbai, with middle-class people, upper-class, in the slums – everyone says there is an underlying consciousness of karma. That people believe in karma – that what you’re putting out is going to come back. If I do something to you, the energy of it is going to come back to me in the future.  Deepak Chopra

I’m a great believer in karma, and the vengeance that it serves up to those who are deliberately mean is generally enough for me.  Beth Ditto

I would never disrespect any man, woman, chick or child out there. We’re all the same. What goes around comes around, and karma kicks us all in the butt in the end of the day.  Angie Stone

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